How to Use a Dilator Set: Progressive Sizes Step by Step

Quick answer

Start with the smallest comfortable size, use plenty of lubricant, and stay at each size until insertion feels easy and pain-free before moving up. A locking sleeve set lets you progress gradually without buying a new dilator at every step.

Step-by-step dilator routine

1. Set up your space and supplies: Wash your hands, lay out the dilator, a water-based lubricant, and a towel, and choose a private, relaxed spot where you won't be interrupted. Common mistake: rushing setup and then feeling tense before you begin. Have everything within reach before you start so you don't need to stop mid-session.
2. Assemble the sleeve at the smallest size: If you're using a sleeved set, fit the smallest sleeve over the base dilator first. Check that it sits securely before use. Common mistake: jumping to a larger sleeve because the smallest feels too easy on day one. Start smaller than you think you need; you can always add the next sleeve in a later session.
3. Apply lubricant generously: Coat the tip and sides of the dilator and the opening of the vagina with water-based lubricant. Reapply if it starts to feel dry. Common mistake: using too little lubricant and mistaking friction for tightness. If insertion drags, add lubricant before adding size.
4. Insert slowly and breathe: Position yourself comfortably, guide the dilator in slowly, and pause if you feel tension. Breathe out as you gently advance. Common mistake: holding your breath or pushing past a sharp sensation. Stop at the first sign of pain and rest at that depth rather than forcing further.
5. Hold and relax for a few minutes: Leave the dilator in place for a short, comfortable period, such as a few minutes, while you breathe normally. Common mistake: timing yourself strictly and feeling pressured to endure discomfort. End the session while you still feel comfortable, not after you've pushed to your limit.
6. Remove gently and clean immediately: Withdraw slowly, then wash the dilator and sleeve with warm water and mild soap, rinse well, and dry completely. Common mistake: leaving lubricant residue on the sleeve between uses. Clean and dry the set before storage so it's ready for the next session.
7. Store the set clean and dry: Keep the dilator and sleeves in a clean, dry place away from direct sunlight and dust. Common mistake: storing a damp sleeve in a closed container, which can encourage odor or residue. Let all parts air-dry fully before putting them away.

Product facts

• Dr. Laura Berman® Dilators™ | set of 4 locking sizes plus sleeve: The Dr. Laura Berman® Dilators set includes three sleeve sizes that interlock over a standard 3 1/4 inch dilator. You can start at the smallest sleeve and stack the next size over it, so one set covers a gradual progression without separate purchases.